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Do You Know the Original Mark?

Can you guess what he was teased about? 

My Mark is great. The first time I met him,  I was about 8 and he was about 15 (creepy). Don’t worry-nothing going on then except an innocent introduction, a nice kid (Mark) saying hi to a kid cousin (Me) and a very good first impression.

It’s impossible to write all the nice things about him but one of the most important is that he’s so patient with me! I use up most of my patience on the kids and he’s a good sport when I’m unreasonable or snippy or short or distracted. I try hard not to be all of those things but he rarely gets mad. Here’s an example….

Two summers ago we were heading out of town. I had a lot to do so we’d be ready when Mark finished work. We were on our way and the car just stopped. Stopped. Then I remembered that I forgot to get gas. By the way, Honda Odysseys have no reserve. There we were in the middle of traffic and managed to get to the side of the road before calling for help (we were pretty close to club where he works). I looked at him and said “Well, are you going to chew me out.” He looked back and said, “I don’t see how that would do any good.” So I said half joking, “That was a good decision because I’m sure I could come up with about 10 reasons why it was your fault.” And I probably would have if he had decided to let me have it. But honestly, it just isn’t his nature to belittle anyone.

So, I’m blessed. He’s the best dad. All the kids still light up when he pulls up the driveway or walks in the door. Frankly, I’m always glad to see him, too.

As I told him before, even on our worst days, there isn’t anyone I’d rather spend time with.

Happy Birthday, Mark. Thank you for robbing the cradle!

Love,
Me

A Quick Lamp Makeover

Once again, “quick” is relative here, since this project was 17 years in the making. Once the inspiration hit, though, it was completed in less than an hour, including drying time. The spraying took about 10 minutes, taping took about 5.
Does everyone married in the 90’s have one of these?
 
 I have HATED this lamp since we got it as a wedding present. I told myself I liked it when it came out of the box because I was informed by my mother-in-law that it was an expensive lamp and that her friends who gave it to us were so generous to spend that much. So, for 17 years, it’s been the main source of light in our living room. Blah. Reading do-it-yourself blogs has contributed to a new level of contempt for brass…can I hear an “Amen”?!
check out that SPARKLE! It’s like an Orbit gum ad!
 
The shape of the lamp is nice, so I found a can of Oil Rubbed Bronze spray paint in the basement, taped off the cord and the business end of the lamp and had at it. I had every intention of dusting the lamp first but I think I forgot. Oops!
I sprayed 2 coats on lightly with about 15 minutes in between to let it dry. I forgot about it for another 30 minutes and it was ready for the new shade. I picked up the barrel shade at Target for another lamp ($20) but it didn’t fit. The shade’s a little darker than I wanted but I didn’t want the brighter white one.
I think it looks so much better. I’m sick of the wall color in this room but that’s a project for another day.
Another view…. it looks black in the photo but IRL it looks more metallic and bronzish. Because I’m impatient, the brass is peeking through in a couple of spots but it looks like it’s supposed to be that way.I’m satisfied with the cost of this project about $23 total. These kind of lamps are in thrift stores and yard sales all the time, I guess I’m not the only one who doesn’t love brass.

 

I’m linking to Frugal Friday’s over at the Shabby Nest and Frugalicious Friday over at Finding Fabulous. Check out these blogs…lots of inspiration. I’ll link to Show and Share Day at “Just a Girl“(one of my favorite blogs) when Chris returns from vacation.

 

A Garden Table Makeover

“Quick” is relative. In terms of hours, this project didn’t take long but let me confess, it actually took about 15 years to complete. Let me ‘splain. This homemade (not by me) workbench sat in our garage for about 5 years after we moved in. We did not use it as a workbench, rather, it was a catch-all for junk. The first time I ever cleaned out the garage, I decided to take it out to free up some space. I sort of crab walked this table one end at a time, by myself, to the side of my house, thinking I’d use it for a potting bench. The sucker is HEAVY and it was UGLY!. Picture legs made out of pressure treated posts, scrap wood made up the apron and lower shelf. Finally, the top is a piece of sheet metal that had splotches of paint on it. I seriously think the inept contractor who owned the house before us found the sheet metal first and decided to build a table around and under it. Here she is before…..without the sheet metal top.

So, it’s been a useful potting bench and beverage and serving table in our yard for about 6 or 7 years. Ugly, though. I always covered it with a tablecloth but the bottom still showed. Let’s just say, it was completely utilitarian. I have admitted before that I have NO imagination or vision. But the creative, DIY blogs have made me look at everything with different-colored glasses. So, last fall, I decided I should paint the darn thing. But I only got around to primering it. This spring, the the girls had a neighbor friend over and were bored and I had some leftover light green sample paint, so I let them have at it.

So, the bottom was painted and has been sitting for a month. What to do about the metal top? The girls wanted to do a mural. Good idea considering they and the neighbor girl are extremely artistic. Then I decided to paint the top black and decide later what kind of design on top-even if they designed it. Then I discovered some left over chalkboard paint in the basement-SHAZAM! It’s perfect. The kids have been having a field day with the sidewalk chalk on it but when I have a party, I can label what I’m putting on it or just write a message. I like it so much better. What I love about this DIY stuff is that even a small change to something makes a big difference in how I feel about any space.
I’ve also been working on painting my hallway. I’ll post about that when it looks a little more decorated. I’ll tell you, though, it’s hard for me to clutter up a newly painted space.
Here’s the “after” picture of the table.

I’m linking to “Show and Share” Day at Just A Girl and Frugal Fridays over at the Shabby Nest. Since I used leftover paint for the base and I did need an extra can of chalkboard paint, I’ll count the cost of the chalkboard paint…this project cost less than $5. That’s frugal, right?

Also linking to Kimba’s DIY DAY “Outdoor Edition”. I’ve missed the DIY days.

 

Another good argument for LESS.

I read this post today and I’m so glad that there are smart people writing about what I have trouble articulating. We’ve dialed back quite a bit this summer. We’ve made a conscious decision to do less. Luke opted not to work as a ball person for a pro tennis tournament (qualifier) that is held locally the second week of July. It’s a fun experience but he decided he’d rather just watch matches and he’s still finishing up baseball and starting a pretty relaxed basketball league that’s only during July. Hannah had to choose between working as a ball person and playing in a tournament herself at her home club. It was a tough decision but she opted not to play. These were thoughtful decisions on both of their parts and I have to say that they are both content with the choices.

Last year they worked as ball people, played in the club tennis tournament, played basketball and Luke was finishing up playing on 2 baseball teams (the 2 team thing wasn’t planned, he was a “call up” and ended up just being “called up” for every game) all during the second week of July and it was too much. Even though nothing literally overlapped, we were all constantly running and I was trying to make arrangements for Kate and Mark to be with friends and family some of the time so that they wouldn’t have to be dragged around.

These choices between 2 (or more) “good” things are tough to make and I’m kicking myself that this is the first time that I’m making the kids choose.

I completely agree with the idea that the constant motion and running from one thing to the next-no matter how great or valuable the experience might be, allows NO time to process the experience. You don’t really enjoy it, let alone learn and grow from it. Not only that but anticipating an experience is also part of learning. Kim John Payne discusses this in his most EXCELLENT book, “Simplicity Parenting“. I talk more about the book here.

So, our summer days have allowed for more boredom, more playing around the neighborhood with friends, more quiet and I think we have all benefitted from it. As a result, we are eating dinner together nearly every night, enjoying ice cream cones on the back porch and everyone’s getting to bed at a reasonable hour-not an ideal hour but a reasonable hour most nights.

Luke, especially, is one who is benefitting most noticeably by this dialed back schedule. He spontaneously talks about the things he’s thinking about. I’ve noticed there hasn’t been much crisis or anxiety in those conversations. He’ll tell me funny things his friend said, randomly talk baseball, say out loud what he’s thinking about anything and it’s so nice. He’s a lot more calm this summer in spite of the boredom of doing less. He still drives his brother and sister crazy with his silliness, but I really think boredom suits him and all of us better than frenetic.

For my part, I’ve taken a break from school planning and have been tackling some projects that last summer’s running would never have allowed for. I spend long stretches of time at home and I’m a lot more calm as a result.

A Prayer for Grace–Answered

I’ve been distracted by a problem-not my own. It’s bugging me. A situation that in my view is blatantly just not right. Even tragic in some ways. I haven’t been asked for my opinion. I completely don’t see eye-to-eye with the person (people) making these choices and it only occasionally affects me indirectly. It’s literally driving me crazy and it’s making me resent the people who are making these lame choices. What bugs me even more is that I know it’s not my place to judge or even have an opinion. In short, it bugs me that it bugs me. I know this is temptation with a capital “T” rearing its ugly head.

I keep telling myself…”Keep your eyes on your own paper.” “Check out the plank in your own eye before examining that other person’s eye.” I know it’s wrong to be distracted and consumed about this. Not only that, I have my own life and vocation – I have plenty on my plate and I mess up plenty-believe me. Not everyone would agree with my choices. I’m certain a lot of people don’t.

So I pray. I pray mostly that I can stop obsessing about the choices that others make and just show them love no matter what their choices are. (It’s fair to read that no matter how much I think they’re %&$* ing up).

An answer came. Not in the form of an opportunity to show these people the “right way”. Not in the form of a panicked plea from them-“What are we doing wrong?”. Not in the form of an innocent question….”How would you do this.” No, the answer was sobering, humbling and clear as anything. Let me explain.

I keep a prayer journal and write in it sporadically. Just recently, I was trained to serve funeral masses at our church. I consider this an honor and feel privileged to do it when I am able. I have also only recently learned about the powerful intercession of the faithful departed and had the inspiration to consistently beg the intercession of the souls whose funerals I serve. As often as I remember, I’ll ask for their help. I got out my book to start recording their names on the back cover. There, at the top of the back cover, was the following quote that I had written a few months ago:

“Take care not to meddle in things that do not concern you, nor even allow them to pass through your mind; for perhaps you will not then be able to fulfill your own task.”

–St. John of the Cross

OK then. I am well aware that I struggle with remembering to strive to do God’s will in my own life. Not only did this admonition direct me to stay out of the affairs that have been preoccupying my thoughts. It gave me permission NOT to make it my business at all.

It’s a relief to let it go. I can’t say that I won’t get bent out of shape the next time I hear about [what I think is] an idiotic choice but I’ll try my best to remember to ask God to show me where I am falling short instead.

Summer’s Here!

Inspired by other bloggers and armed with a few paint chips, I decided to put together our own “intentional summer” list. I thought I had a sheet of clean poster board but couldn’t find it. Then I spotted this half piece that I painted a test color for the girls’ room. I thought it looked summery so I wrote right over it. I’m not advocating raiding the paint department for paint chips for this project but you probably have a few laying around. It cheerifies the poster.

We likely won’t get to all of the things but we’ll do a lot of them and I’m o.k. with that. Summer is about dialing back for me and I try to let the kids enjoy a little laziness of summer.  I have a vivid memory of waking up on the first day after school was out with the sun streaming in, a slight breeze blowing the curtains, a lawnmower buzzing somewhere in the neighborhood and being so happy to have the whole, open day ahead of me. I want the kids to enjoy that, too which is why I won’t be obsessing over checking off the list. It will just be fun to see how many we can check off. Since we homeschool, some things will be better left for the first few days of September when everyone else is back in school.

I’m linking to Chris’ “Show and Share” day at “Just a Girl”. Check it out. People have some GREAT ideas and Chris’ blog is really beautiful, too.

Do you know Mark?

Mark turned 8 today. It’s impossible to believe that he’s been a full-fledged kid now for at least a year. I’m not buying it, though, because he still has dimples on his knuckles. Mark’s not only my baby, he is OUR baby. I keep saying his wife is going to hate us all because we really do baby him. We know we’re ruining him but we can’t help it.

Mark was almost “Jake”. Big Mark didn’t want the confusion of a “Jr.” in the house but aside from Luke, there wasn’t another boy’s name I loved as much as “Mark”. I liked others but for various reasons, couldn’t use them. Jake didn’t have a particular significance but I like it. When the doctor told me he delivered more Jakes than Marks, we decided on Mark. It has caused some confusion but nothing disastrous so far. That will likely happen when he’s working and generating utility bills.

When Luke found out I was pregnant again, he was so happy that he would have a brother and a roommate. I was worried because I didn’t know yet that I was having a boy. He got his wish and 2 boys and 2 girls works nicely for our 3 bedroom house.

A few days after he came home, Mark was laying on this “little couch” we had-you know the kind, a mini sofa bed for kids that unfolds. It was a fixture in our living room until it got too ratty. (I think back now and wish I had re-covered it). Anyway, each of the kids had a side of him. Luke was at his head and was just patting him and had his head next to the top of Mark’s and told the girls, “You know he loves me the most because I’m a boy.” They were only 4 and 2 at the time so it made them cry.

Mark still wasn’t crawling by his 1st birthday. He’d do this stealth crawl on his elbows and drag his legs around like a merman out of water. He was my 4th and I was blissfully unconcerned knowing that kids develop at different rates. When the pediatrician was concerned and ordered all kinds of tests, it was like a ton of bricks fell on my head. I really expected to go to his 1 year well-check and hear the doc say, “Kids develop at all different ages”. Part of the reason that I was so clueless was that Mark was so engaged and engaging as an infant and baby. He was so with it even before he could talk. My brother was visiting one day when Mark was about 9 months and said something sarcastic to me-as he often does- and Mark laughed on cue as if he got the joke. Ned looked at me and said, “It’s like he understood what I was saying.” I said, “He does that all the time.”

Mark turned out to be fine physically. The MRI was negative and by the time the home therapy was set up, he was walking.

Mark could read before he knew he could. He’d see words in a book (no pictures) or a sign and make some comment or ask a question based on those words. He did that all the time, too. The other thing he does is repeat things that other people say just before him but he doesn’t realize he’s doing it. I think he does this by visual cues that evoke a common memory or hearing a story that evokes a common memory but sometimes I think he’s just thinking about something else and hears the comment without realizing it and then repeats almost the exact words in a way that sounds like an original thought.

The boy has rythym! He was in the yard one day as a baby and someone drove by with a loud, booming rap beat. He started rocking on all 4’s and bouncing his head to the rythym. His dancing changes to the style of the music very naturally. If he hears a swing tune, for example, picture a version of the Charleston-jazz hands and stepping back and forth with the kicks. If he hears marching music, his posture gets straight, chin up and stiff. If he hears the soundtrack for a musical, he looks like he’s on stage and his moves are more “showy”. He can carry a tune and when he plays an instrument for the first time, it sounds like he can actually play it. Shame on me for not getting him into some kind of music lessons by now, I’ve been lazy.

The boy loves sports-any kind-and he’s good. When we learned about his possible developmental problems, his pediatrician said “You might not even know he has a disability but he’s not going to be the star athlete in school.” Who knows why a doctor would say something like that but he was wrong. He’s not a star because he hasn’t participated in organized sports but he’s a good athlete. The age difference between him and Luke has forced him to become proficient pretty quickly at anything Luke and the older neighborhood boys play. For the most part he keeps up but they’ve been patient and have always included him. I don’t know what he’ll end up playing-hopefully something without a lot of equipment.

Mark is industrious and I’m guilty of not letting him do as much as he’s capable. If you give him a job that has a purpose, he gets to it. I kick myself for not remembering this more often. He likes to the dishes-of all things-which isn’t more work for me at this point because he can reach the sink. He decided last summer that he wanted to make our basement room usable so he suggested “getting the junk out”. Typically, this is a job that I would wait to do when kids weren’t underfoot but we started and he spent a whole morning as foreman on the job. Very determined.

My favorite time of the day with Mark is first thing in the morning. He’s so squishy and warm and cuddly. He’s variably tolerant of the kids cuddling him but I always get to. He almost always wakes up first and it’s so nice to have a little quiet time with him. He’s past the stage where he challenges me as soon as his feet hit the floor.

Mark is dynamic and outgoing. I have a code for when he’s getting out of hand….QSO (Quit showing off), sounds harsh but I don’t want him to be obnoxious. It usually doesn’t work, anyway.

Ever since Mark made his communion, he doesn’t complain about Mass. I was a tad worried but he really does feel privileged to receive. His habit was to whisper “How many more minutes?” right after the processional, then again after the liturgy of the word, sometimes again right before communion. In fact when I asked whether he wanted to be an altar server, he said “yes” because then he could just ask the priest directly “how many more minutes.” He doesn’t ask anymore. Instead, he’s counting how many communions he’s had. Another note on the spiritual side of things, he said he wanted to be a priest. “Really?” I asked, “What makes you say that?” He said, “So I don’t have to get married.” OK then.

Mark is really funny but since he says something to make me laugh nearly every day, I can’t think of anything specific. Sorry. I’ll have to start posting things like that or jotting them down so I can remember them-for all the kids.

Happy Birthday, Mark! I can’t believe you’re 8 but I know it’s going to be a great year! We love you!

"But What about Socialization?"

Ah….the million dollar question! Admittedly, this was my main concern when I heard about kids being homeschooled. I cringe when I think about my vitriolic reaction and my narrow view of kids being shut in with their over-bearing, radically religious mothers all day. This isn’t what homeschooling is for almost EVERY homeschooler I’ve ever had contact with. People homeschool for all different reasons and keeping kids away from other kids is rarely heard of.

I guess the question becomes how my kids learn social skills. In the early years, the concern was how they would learn to take turns, not speak out of turn, and get along with others. I realized very quickly that these traits were rarely a problem with homeschooled kids. The few times our little homeschooling group has gone on field trips, we always get complimented about how well-behaved, engaged and courteous our children are-even the little ones. Complete strangers often compliment my children on their good manners or behavior. It’s happened in restaurants, church, department stores, and even weddings where they’ve been the only kids.  When these same people find out that they’re homeschooled almost always ask the question…”But what about socialization?” Even relatives have gone out of their way to tell me what a nice 2-way conversation they had with one of the kids and in the next breath ask AGAIN “How long do you think you’ll homeschool?”

I don’t think homeschooling produces perfectly socialized kids 100% of the time. I’m not even suggesting that my children are perfectly socialized. But I can comment about a few observations.

I live in a neighborhood where the kids are evenly mixed between Catholic school and the local public school. With a few exceptions, their social circles are dictated by the school they attend. In other words, they tend to hang out with the 1 or 2 kids who are in their grade in their school. I realize this is natural, I’m not making a judgment, just an observation. My kids have friends in both schools and have never been teased or ostracized by either group when they play with kids from the other group.

When Kate was younger, she had friends from all different places. She got to be friends with the sister of one of Luke’s teammates, another sister of another friend, her cousin and a homeschooled friend who lives across the street. What was nice for her is that she has always preferred playing one-on-one or in a very small group. On a few occassions, a few of the kids would be in the same swim class or tennis class or “Little Flowers” group and it was nice for Kate to be with more than one of her friends and they got acquainted with each other. I guess my point is that she didn’t have a problem making friends or getting to know kids even though she’s never attended school.

I think Luke felt the loneliest at home for a few years and I used to pray for a boy his age (who liked to play sports) to move close by. I’d say there were 2 years when I really wondered if I was doing him a disservice by keeping him home. Not to say he was completely isolated-he still played football and wiffleball with the older neighbor boys and have friends over after school but he really felt lonely sometimes. Partly because he just didn’t “hang out” with the older boys.

This really isn’t an issue anymore. He is content having different friends from different parts of his life. He also is getting to be good friends with a great kid (2 years older) who lives in the neighborhood. This boy and his brother (who is a year older than Mark) have been playing with my boys off and on for a couple of years but for some reason, they are just becoming better friends. Even though this kid is 2 years older, I don’t worry about him influencing Luke in a negative way. He’s a great role model. I can tell Luke really looks up to him. I also think this other boy appreciates how nice and fun Luke is. There just isn’t any of the typical garbage. I found out not too long ago that this boy has been bullied relentlessly in school and wants to transfer to the Catholic school. Surprising since he’s very athletic, handsome, smart and all around nice. How could he be bullied? But he has been.

Hannah, who will be 13 soon, is just starting to feel like she wants to be with a gaggle of girls. It surprised me because she really is an introvert. Right before Christmas, she thought she might consider going to school next year. Once she got a cell phone, though, she felt connected and it satisfied her need to be a part of a group-for now. She texts a few friends but I think the format really suits her. (she can connect when she wants but isn’t obligated to spend hours with someone).Honestly, I think her status as being out of the loop but knowing people in a few loops is perfect for her personality type. She’s learning a lot about group dynamics by sometimes being immersed and sometimes observing. So, we’ll see. For now, she’s decided to stay home for next year. In my state school districts have to allow homeschoolers to participate in extracurricular activities, so this might be something she decides to pursue in the meantime. One other observation is that she also is friends with kids from both schools.

Generally I won’t say there aren’t concerns about my kids fitting in. When given the opportunity, they fit in pretty seamlessly. I’ve found that the conventionally-schooled kids sometimes aren’t open to it-or maybe just don’t think of it. In terms of behavior, I’m generally happy with how my kids present themselves. Sure, I have to correct them or talk to one about being hyper-sensitive about different personality types. Lots of times Mark likes to be the center of attention so I have to talk to him about that but I don’t think he’d be any different if he went to school.

Memorial-In His Own Words

My father-in-law served during WWII as a navigator on a B-24 bomber in the Army Air Corp. His service was cut short when his plane went down in Nadzab, New Guinea. Most of the men on the airplane died in the crash. Every year on the anniversary of the crash, the co-pilot would call and they would catch up. I think at the request of this other man, my father-in-law recorded the events as he remembered them. Here are his words. Alert, the account is long. In memory of him and in attempt to preserve the account, I’m retyping and posting his type-written recollection.

Nadzab, New Guinea
May 21, 1944
“This is my best recollection of what happened in New Guinea on May 21, 1944. I believe my recollection to be good even forty-five years later, but since I sometimes think that this could never have happened to me, some minor details may be inaccurate. I have never until this year discussed these events with anyone else who would have any knowledge of what happened.
We were a B-24 bomber crew on a mission to bomb the island of Biak held by the Japanese just north of the western part of New Guinea. The distance was over 700 miles one way, so it would be a ten or twelve hour flight. The plane was a new one–never having been flown in combat before that day.
We were leading a flight and it is my hazy recollection that we, therefore, had an extra enlisted man on the crew. I believe he was a radioman.
The flight to the target was uneventful, but when we got near the south coast of Biak, we encountered some flak. Although I do not remember any flak close to us at that time we lost an engine. I am not certain but I believe it was the number two engine.
The pilot, Tom Janusz, or the co-pilot, Ed Kubitz, feathered the bad engine and we continued to lead the flight and drop our bombs on the Japanese headquarters area, which was our target. We then turned to return to our base at Nadzab still leading our flight.
On the way back the pilot tried the dead engine and it apparently worked well. We continued on all four engines until we got in sight of our field at Nadzab. We were either in our final approach to land or very close to it when two or three of the engines–I am not certain how many or which ones–began to cut out and in.
It is my understanding that we were unable to turn onto the runway because of the terrain and the admonition of never turning into your bad engine–or in this case, perhaps bad engines. As a result the pilot decided to attempt to keep the plane aloft until we could get to an emergency landing strip further up the Markam River or gain enough altitude to bail out.
The pilot and co-pilot were in their seats. As navigator, I was seated at my desk directly behind the pilot. The bombadier, Charles Gill, was standing to my right directly under the top gun turret and the crew chief, an enlisted man, was also on the flight deck.
It is strange that I cannot remember the names of most of the enlisted men. But I can remember their faces and physical descriptions vividly–well enough to describe them for an artist’s drawing.
We were very low having lost our altitude in preparing to land. The co-pilot ordered the enlisted crew to bail out, but in my judgment, we did not have enough altitude and I ordered them to the rear bombay bulkhead, supposedly the safest crash position. To this day I wonder whether I lost five lives or saved two. All the officers remained on the flight deck.
I attempted to put on my parachute harness and snap on my chute, but my harness was twisted and I could not snap it on. I remember very vividly thinking that if I took off the harness to straighten it out we might momentarily gain enough altitude to bail out. I was afraid that then everybody else would leave the plane and leave me all alone struggling with my chute. I remember that I was not so much afraid of crashing as I was that I might be left alone on the plane. I mustered all the strength I could and forced the chute on the harness in a twisted fashion. I still wonder if it would have opened properly if I had had the chance to bail out.
Even though the co-pilot obviously thought the crew could bail out safely, he made no attempt to bail out himself but continued to help the pilot try to keep the plane up long enough to get to the emergency strip.
I have often thought with amazement about how well the entire crew behaved in this emergency situation. I must admit that I had often thought about this before these events and I felt that some of them would not perform well. There was no panic. Everyone was under complete control.
The plane would pull up a few feet and then settle and this continued for a short period. Then suddenly we hit the trees. We must have stalled out and hit nose down for I do not remember cutting any path through the trees.
When the plane hit there was one large thump and then I remember a period of absolute silence. It seemed like several seconds elapsed and then I saw the pilot float straight up in the air and through the roof. Again, several seconds seemed to elapse and then the co-pilot appeared to float out to the right through the side of the plane. Again several seconds seemed to elapse and I felt myself floating very slowly up in the air and through the roof. I have no recollection at all of the bombadier who was standing inches away to my right.
How we could break through the roof or sides of the plane I cannot imagine. I recollect that later I saw only a cut on the bridge of the nose of the pilot. The co-pilot’s face or head were unmarked and I had cuts on my scalp and one under my chin.
I felt myself flying through the air and I landed in some large bushes or saplings in the jungle. I believe I landed feet first and then I hit on my back where I believe I had a jungle pack which may have saved me from worse injury. I have always felt that I was conscious throughout this perieod although because of the slow motion I remember I must have been close to unconscious.
I was very uncomfortable because I was lying on the bent bushes and saplings, but I felt no pain. My lower right leg was pointed out at almost a right angle and looked grotesque. I straightened it out with my hands so that it would look more normal. I was told later by the doctors that in doing so I had probably saved my leg. But they said that in doing so I had also taken the chance of cutting all the blood vessels and bleeding to death.
There was no debris from the plane visible to me and I could not see any other crewmen. I called out and one voice answered me and pleaded with me to help him. I could not make him understand that I could not move to help him and he kept pleading to me for help. Eventually he quit and I later assumed that he was one of the men who died at the scene.
I remember looking at my watch either just before the crash or while I was lying there just after the crash. It was 4:45 p.m. After a short while some natives came to the scene and approached me. They appeared friendly but could not understand me.
I got my parachute off the harness and threw it toward the natives. They took it and ran off into the jungle. I often think that they knew what they had and were delighted to get all that nylon for dresses for their girlfriends or wives.
My sensation as I lay there waiting for help was one of extreme happiness. I guess I was just lucky to be alive and I knew that I would be going home.
It was quite a while before help arrived. My recollection is that it was about six hours. I vaguely remember that it was still daylight, so it could not have been that long. They came up the bed of the Markam River in trucks to get to us. We stayed overnight at the scene of the crash and were were evacuated the next morning by a C-47 which landed in a clearing near the scene.
This was the first time I remember seeing any other members of our crew. I remember vividly that the co-pilot tried to keep them from putting him on the C-47. Apparently he wanted no parts of an airplane so soon after this experience.
We were flown to the 3rd Field Hospital. I believe it was near Nadzab. I was put in an ambulance with the bombadier. My right leg was all busted up with the bones protruding though the flesh so I was in a lot of pain during the ride to the hospital. I believe the bombadier, who appeared not to be hurt, had walked onto the C-47. During the ride to the hospital he was lying on a stretcher, but he kept getting up on one elbow to steady my stretcher and kept telling the ambulance driver to take it easy because I was having a lot of pain from the rough ride.
At the hospital the pilot, co-pilot and I were together, but the bombadier was not with us. I thought this was probably because he was not hurt. A few days later we were told that he had died of internal injuries.
The doctor took one look at me and said, “Son, the armistice for you was signed on May 21, 1944. You’re going home.” That was one of the happiest moments of my life. I was ready.
I had severe lacerations of my scalp and under my chin and an obviously broken right leg. Other than bruises and contusions, this appeared to be all. Howver, when they tried to put me up on crutches in a few days, I could not stand on my left leg. They discovered that I had fractured the top of the left fibula and the left peroneal nerve had been severed. Because of this I was to spend eighteen months in army hospitals–mostly New England General at Atlantic City,  New Jersey.
The pilot had only a slight cut on the bridge of his nose and after a few days of observation he went back to duty with the 90th Bomb Group. He visited the hospital a couple of times, but after that I never saw him or heard anything of him again.
The co-pilot to the best of my knowledge at that time had only a broken back. I remember that he was in a lot of pain. I was told that most of the pain was from kidney stones that had formed as a result of the large doses of sulfa drugs that we had all been taking to prevent infection. Penicillin was not yet available.
After the crash I do not remember seeing any of the enlisted men. I was told that only two survived. This seems strange because at the crash they were at the rear bombay bulkhead, supposedly the safest position, while the officers were on the flight deck, supposedly the most dangerous position.
In January or February, I met Ed Kubitz, the co-pilot at a convalescence hospital in Miami, Florida. It is strange, but I do not remember us talking much about the crash.
This is the first time I have ever written anything about the events of May 21, 1944, although I have spoken of it often. I have tried to be candid and give the facts as I recall them and I believe my recollection is excellent. I have not had the advantage of checking my recollection with anyone else who was involved. Any inaccuracies in this account are unintentional.”
1st Lt. Walter J. Phillips
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So, there you have it. Just one example of the type of courage and sacrifice demonstrated by thousands of service people. They do deserve recognition, respect and our deep appreciation. My father-in-law went on to attend the University of Michigan and Harvard Law School thanks to the GI Bill. He was a great story teller and no-nonsense type of guy. Tough as nails and extremely smart, constructive and productive. He lived a good, long life. At 80 years old, he was cutting firewood with a chain saw just days before he died of pneumonia.
In Memory

My First DIY Post

Last summer I discovered blogs where mostly women were wielding power tools and spray paint and decorating their homes and lives with a lot of elbow grease, ingenuity and thrift store finds. I was addicted and inspired. It was the perfect diversion or escape from everything homeschool (or was it). I had a neighbor once who would drag old, beat-up furniture into her yard and spray paint it. Maybe I just didn’t like her taste, but it never inspired me to try it myself.

But the blogs I discovered last summer did inspire me.

Mark comes from a family of natural wood lovers. All grains and tones. His dad’s hobby was to refinish antique or primitive pieces and decorate his home with them. He taught me how to strip and refinish and I did do a few projects but I was never passionate about it. I think because I just love the look of painted wood so much more. I also thought wood was supposed to be painted with a brush-consequently, I didn’t do much of it. Don’t get me wrong. I think brushing on paint is much more economical but takes a lot more time. Nevertheless, the first re-do I’m going to show you is a hutch that Mark and I bought at an antique store the second year we were married. We both loved it. His dad thought it looked cheap but we decided to plunk down the $450.00 anyway and we stuffed it into our apartment.

We live in an old farmhouse that was built in the 1860’s and the hutch fits here perfectly. It’s also huge so it’s been useful. Before last summer, I never considered changing it. I even left the vintage shelf-liner in it.

Almost forgot to take a picture before I tore the vintage paper out
 

Check out that beautiful beadboard on the back of the hutch. As you can see, it’s a big, honkin piece of furniture and the wood isn’t particularly beautiful. Since it seemed to go with the house, it never occurred to me to paint it. It took a few days to break it to Mark and to convince him that it would look better painted. He never likes the idea of painting over wood. He usually sort of shakes his head when he sees me painting (I’m not a detail person). So I went at it. It’s too big and cumbersome to move out to the yard, so I was forced to paint with a brush. (Which I find very relaxing and satisfying, but time-consuming).  I primed it with Zinser 1-2-3 because I have a lot of it. I know an oil-based top-coat would have been recommended in this case because of the durability but I didn’t have any and I didn’t want the hassle of cleaning the brushes with

After I primed the whole thing inside and out and the glass doors (not the back-it’s against the wall), I had to take the doors off to spray the hardware. The hinges and handles were an ugly brass. Rather than replace them, I sprayed them first with a nickel finish which was too shiny or something. So I added a light coat of Rustoleum Hammered Bronze which toned it down a bit.

Once the doors were off, I loved the look of it and decided not to put them back on. Mark was skeptical because the doors do have a lot of character.
After about 3 coats of the paint color (sorry I completely forget what that is), I placed a few dishes on the shelves and decided I liked it better. I just think it looks less cluttered.
I’ve always loved and have never had open-shelving and LOOOOOVE it. I keep my wedding dishes here and we use them all the time. Fortunately, we picked a pattern that isn’t too fancy. Since they’re so accessible, we use them all the time.
I love the vintage pyrex nesting bowls. I got a yellow and green from Mark’s mom and found the red and blue (not shown) from an antique store. Since they’re accessible, I use them all the time, too.
So, there you have it. My first DIY post. If I can figure out how to do it, I’ll link to Chris’ “Show and Share Day “at “Just a Girl”, and “Transformation Thursdays” over at the “Shabby Chic Cottage”. Check out what some of these people can do! Be warned, if you have even the slightest notion to do something yourself, you’ll be hooked!
To sum up here’s the Before:
 
 
And now for the After:
Don’t comment on my bowl placement. I wanted the space to look uncluttered but also useful. The only thing I really don’t use is the vintage pitcher on the top right shelf but I like how it looks up there. 
 
Go paint something!