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holiday decorations

3 Tips to Simplify Holiday Un-decorating

holiday decorations

Whether you take the tree down the day after Christmas, New Year’s Day or wait for Epiphany or Orthodox Christmas, un-decorating can be a daunting, overwhelming task. Here are a few things you can do to make the chore less “Grinchy” and still allow you to enjoy the best parts of holiday cheer.

1. Keep Your Boxes Handy

This tip might be obvious to some of you but it took me a few years to figure out.

I used to pull out all of my Christmas decoration boxes from the attic at one time, decorate the house,  then store the empty boxes back in the attic. Our attic has a pull-down ladder and a low ceiling so you pretty much have to crawl around up there to retrieve anything. This wasn’t convenient and made the task a little too “all-or-nothing”.

Now I store empty boxes in the basement or garage which provides easier access. DUH.

As a BONUS, since we live in a small house, this provides excellent hiding places for gifts.

2. Small Steps

I take the decorations down over a few days or even a couple of weeks. I remove the things first that feel most like clutter or that I find myself stepping over (like the train under the tree).

My son is sentimental about the various stuffed Christmas toys we’ve received over the years. He doesn’t play with them but he loves to see them out. I don’t especially love these and they feel a lot like clutter to me since my children are older now and DON’T play with them. They are the last things out of the attic and the first things back.

I took our candles out of the windows today since a few have burned out and one keeps falling off the ledge. Since we still have twinkly lights in other parts of the house, I can still enjoy that comfy evening glow that only holiday lights can provide.

Basically, I’ll take the lights down last. It’s amazing how bare the house feels when everything is put away.

3. Remove Ornaments but Leave the Lights

In keeping with tip #2, leaving the tree up and the lights on it doesn’t mean you can’t put away the ornaments.

While everyone usually loves to pitch in with decorating the tree, the task of un-decorating it always falls on me so I tackle the ornaments first. I leave the lights on so we can enjoy them a little longer but the most time-consuming part of the job is behind me.

Another obvious strategy is to purge decorations and ornaments that you no longer love or use. This will make both sides of the chore easier next year.

Do you have any tips that make the task of cleaning up after the holidays any easier? Please share it in the comments.

Colonoscopy

What to Expect for a Colonoscopy

Colonoscopy

My husband had his first colonoscopy yesterday. As we drove home, he was trying to explain how easy it was compared to his anxiety and dread about the whole thing. He suggested that I write a post about it.

According to statistics, colon cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death among men and women combined in the U.S.. Studies confirm that early screening reduces deaths from colorectal cancer. It’s worth getting checked and according to Mark, fear shouldn’t prevent you from doing so.

Aside from the kids treating him like a nuclear reactor the day before the test, the worst part about it, by far, was anticipating how terrible it would be to drink the cleansing solution and wondering how miserable you’ll feel afterward.

The day before the procedure, Mark’s diet was restricted to clear liquids. He’s a pretty thin guy, eats 3 pretty standard meals per day and snacks for energy on the tennis court (he’s a teaching pro). Not being able to eat could be slightly torturous for me but he handled it like a champ.

Mark had to drink four 8oz. cups of the prescribed liquid beginning at 5:30 pm the evening before the test (Happy Hour anyone?). The second round of four 8 oz. cups began at 9:30. The liquid is clear and comes with a lemony flavor packet. He mixed it ahead of time and refrigerated it to make it easier to drink. He got it down with a little effort but it was doable and not the worst thing he could have taken.

The enema cocktail kicked in about 30-45 minutes after the first cup and it didn’t give him cramps. Although he wanted to share the details with me, I passed that job off to my boys. Without getting too graphic, things were pretty clear after a few trips to the loo by about 7:30 or so.

Round 2 was really just to make sure he was clean and clear-which he was but still made multiple trips to the bathroom. He went to bed at about 1:00 a.m. and was able to sleep through until 6:00 when we had to get up to make it to the hospital by 7:45. Overall, the physical prep the night before wasn’t as bad as he anticipated.

The next hardest thing for Mark was not being able to eat high-fiber foods the entire week before the test. He snacks on raw vegetables to get him through his long day on the court. Sometimes he’ll have nuts or granola. He ended up taking bags of pretzels, which don’t give you much energy. He also loves salad with dinner and couldn’t eat that. This might not be much of an issue if you don’t eat a lot of fruits or vegetables normally. I don’t and probably wouldn’t miss them as much as he did.

The procedure, itself, was easy compared to his anxiety about it. He had to be there at 7:45 for pre-op and the procedure was underway by 9:05. He got an epidural which burned a little and a light anesthesia to keep him asleep during the procedure which was about 15 minutes from start to finish.

The surgeon reported that everything looked good. Based on the fact that Mark’s dad had some polyps removed and based on that history, the doc recommended a repeat in 5 years. Recovery was about an hour total and I was able to take him home. He definitely was unsteady after the anesthesia but was able to walk to the car.

Although Mark was exhausted and tried to sleep when we got home he wasn’t able to and still felt well enough to grill burgers for dinner. When I asked him how he felt at the end of the day, he claimed that his energy was great and he thought it might have something to do with the whole cleansing process. I can relate to that.

Although all of the medical personnel were kind and professional, Mark thought that they could be more reassuring about the procedure, itself. He guesses that they’re unaware of how nervous and anxious people are about it. He’s hoping that reading this reassures others to get it out of the way.

If you’re approaching or over 50 and have been avoiding this important diagnostic test, I hope Mark’s experience encourages you to get it done.

5 Great Gifts From Grandparents

5 Great Gifts from Grandparents

First, let me say that no matter what the occasion, I don’t think gifts from grandparents are necessary or should be expected. Ever. If you are a grandparent and you enjoy giving gifts to your adult children and/or grandchildren, here are a few ideas:

1. Museum/zoo/science center/aquarium/children’s museum membership or visit.

All of the activities listed above (museums, science centers, etc.) tend to be expensive, especially for families with more than 2 children. This is the type of gift that both parents and children can appreciate and enjoy. An annual membership is literally the gift that gives year round and may have reciprocal benefits with other sites in the city or in other cities. Some memberships include a “grandparent” or caretaker pass so you can enjoy it with the children, too, if you aren’t the primary member.

2. Concert, show, play or other special outing with lunch or dinner.

This is something you can do with one grandchild at a time, just a few or all of them if you’re up to it. My mom treated my oldest son to a baseball game for a few years as a birthday gift. He really does treasure the memories and loved looking forward to it and she loved sharing something with him that he loves-GO BUCS!.

3. P.J.’s, dress clothes or coats and boots

I’m sure I’m not the only parent who dreads spending money on all of these things. PJ’s aren’t quite as bad because they get lots of use (but still, good quality, comfy ones are expensive, no one really sees them and one pair is plenty for kids in my book). Dress clothes, coats and boots are a little different because they don’t get lots of use and kids tend to grow out of them in a season.

Thrift stores are a great source for these things but sometimes you just don’t find the right size.

My friend’s mom buys each grandchild a dress coat when they need it. It’s a lovely gift, especially because they all attend the same church and she gets to appreciate how nice they all look every week.

4. A Keepsake

An heirloom piece can be a special gift for a boy or a girl. This might not be possible if you have many grandchildren but if you only have a few, you might want to think about gifting them special pieces of jewelry, a watch, a jewelry box or something else (not too bulky) that is special to you. I wouldn’t advise boxing up the china, this type of heirloom can sometimes be more of a burden than a blessing.

If you don’t have an heirloom, you can start a new tradition of a special purchase of that type at a certain age for each of your grandchildren. A classic watch for a boy, a special bracelet or necklace for each girl in the family.

If you’d like your dollars to help someone else AND are interested in encouraging unity among the cousins, you might be interested in buying everyone something from Give or Toms shoes (they even have things for guys). If neither of those sites is a good fit for you and your extended family, you might appreciate this Ethical Shopping Guide that Tsh at The Art of Simple put together. Make a statement, raise awareness and love on the kids all at once!

5. Classes, equipment or supplies for a special passion, activity or interest.

Art classes, dance classes or lessons for sports can sometimes be cost-prohibitive for families. Even if the activity, itself isn’t, the equipment can be.

I give my mom credit for buying Hannah her first digital camera when she was 10 or 11. I thought it was too generous, (and redundant) since Hannah was free to use my digital point-and-shoot anytime. Once she had her own camera, though, she developed a passion for photography that I’m sure will be with her forever.

When Luke started catching for his baseball team, my mom was happy to buy him a catcher’s mitt for his birthday. Again, it’s something I couldn’t justify spending money on since we had other expenses (uniform and shoes plus a bat for his birthday) and the team had a mitt that he could use. He was so thrilled with it and was proud that everyone wanted to use it when they were behind the plate. He used that mitt for 4 seasons so he certainly got his use out of it.

I think all of the gifts listed above are as much for the parents as they are for the kids and if you truly enjoy giving gifts to the grandchildren, I hope this gives you some ideas.

6. BONUS!!

I know the article suggests 5 great gifts. Maybe the greatest gift of all for the parents, the grandchildren and yes, even the grandparents……

 

SLEEPOVER AT GRANDMA’S!

 

NUFF SAID!

If you have other gift ideas from grandparents, I’d love to hear about them.

 

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Happy Spaghetti Wednesday!

spaghetti dinner night before Thansgiviing

KIds Eat First

I posted last year about my family’s Thanksgiving tradition that we call Spaghetti Wednesday. I thought I’d take some time to explain what it is, how it started and why it’s been such a great tradition for all of us that we all love.

When Mark and I bought this house more than 18 years ago, we were both working and not unlike many new couples, spent most of our holidays running around. It wasn’t only his family and my family, it was his family, then my dad, then on to my aunt’s house where my brothers and I always ended up to relax and laugh with our closest cousins. Since my mom would usually be there, that’s where I typically saw her.

The first year in our new house, I thought it might be nice to have my side of the family over the night before Thanksgiving so Mark and I  had less running around to do on the actual holiday. Seeing my family the night before Thanksgiving would eliminate the running on Thanksgiving day. My side of the family wasn’t really adamant about anything, though they wanted to see us and we wanted to spend time with them. If everyone came to my house the night before Thanksgiving, I could see my brothers, mom, dad and stepmom the night before Thanksgiving, have dinner with Mark’s family on Thanksgiving day then head down to my aunt’s after dinner to hang out with the cousins.

My family's night-before-Thanksgiving tradition

Hanging out and visiting

My side of the family was all for it. Since most of my brothers were still single their only plans were meeting friends out for the biggest bar night of the year but dinner didn’t interfere with that.

I debated for weeks about what to serve and decided that spaghetti and meatballs was easy and everyone could easily contribute a component of the meal…salad, bread, appetizer and dessert. The spaghetti and meatballs part is so easy to make ahead.

As we’ve added spouses and children to the mix, we’ve grown beyond the dining room table and serve the dinner buffet style now.

Those cousins that we grew up with have been joining us for dessert for the past 5-10 years because it’s just easier for their families, too.

My mom now lives a few houses away, so she hosts dessert which gives me and Mark a chance to clean up, visit with everyone as guests and go home when we’re tired.

It’s been great for all of the brothers and their spouses who appreciate spending time together and being able to spend Thanksgiving with one family. It just makes the day easier for everyone.

I tell everyone about this tradition and so far, it hasn’t taken hold. One day it will and I hope to get the credit. You can thank me later.

So, Happy Spaghetti Wednesday everyone! Be safe!

Aldi Chili Recipe

Easy Crockpot Chili

This Chili is Perfect for a Busy Day or a Big Crowd

I’ve posted about my love for Aldi before. I am so brainwashed that I’ve walked out of our local grocery chain in disgust because I didn’t want to spend an extra $.49 for a bag of noodles.

Here’s a quick dump recipe that costs around $10 with plenty of leftovers for a busy day or a big crowd. I browned the ground beef and threw it all in a crock pot. You could also let it simmer on the stove for a couple of hours.

2-2.5 lb ground beef, browned (2.39/lb)

1 can Fire Roasted tomatoes (.89) (This is occasionally available, stock up if you like them)

1 can diced tomatoes with green chilis (Aldi’s version of Ro-tel) (.59)

3 sm cans tom sauce (that’s what they had on hand) (.75)

1 can of chili flavored beans (.59)

1 can of kidney beans (.59)

2 tsp of chipotle chili powder (I didn’t get this at Aldi but Aldi does carry chili seasoning packets or you can use your favorite chili powder to taste)

Stir it up and cook it on low in a crockpot or simmer on low on the stove top for a couple of hours.

Quick and satisfying chili recipe

Aldi Chili

If you prefer less kick, leave out the tomatoes with green chilies.

 

Linking up over at The Shabby Nest and The Thrifty Groove……it’s been a while. Go be inspired.

The Shabby Nest

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ping pong on the dining room table?

Thinking of Ping Pong for Christmas….

ping pong on the dining room table?

Portable Ping Pong Anyone?

…but don’t have the room?

We got one of these last year and it has been an awesome, durable toy that everyone in the family loves! Our house is waaaay too small for a full-sized ping pong table. I considered getting an actual tennis-table-top, like this but felt like it would be bulky and cumbersome.

The dimensions of the portable table aren’t that much bigger than our dining room table with the extension, so I went with just the net/paddle/balls. I figured if it was a dud, we were only out $25. Although our dining room set was a hand-me-down, this hasn’t scratched or damaged the surface or edges at all. The net holders are plastic but have held up well.

Luke’s tennis buddy stayed with us for a couple of nights and they spent nearly every waking hour playing ping pong. It took Adam a couple of games to adjust to the size of the table since he has a full-sized table at home but then they competed evenly.

Just in case you’re still skeptical, check this out…..   Having trouble viewing the video clip, click here.

In case you’re keeping score, that’s Mark 2, Luke 1….and Luke’s playing righty. He usually plays Mark lefty.

 

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army air corp. ID

Remembering 1st Lt. Walter J. Phillips

army air corp. ID

Lt. Phillips military ID

I thought it would be appropriate to revive this post which is a first-hand account of my father-in-law’s experience during World War II. You might especially appreciate it if you’re a history buff. He had great stories of convalescing including taking a golf lesson from Ben Hogan and being sung to by Doris Day at his bedside. Pretty cool. His recovery took months and he nearly lost both legs. But somehow, they were able to save them.

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WWII Veteran Walter J. Phillips

1st Lt. Walter J. Phillips

I’m not sure where this was taken. If you can identify the location, please leave a comment.

Thank you to anyone who has served our country in any branch of the armed services and their families. We owe you everything.

 

Comparing Cyber School to Traditional Homeschool

First, let me just say, aside from taking place mostly at home, there is not much similarity and in my opinion, no comparison between cyber charter school and traditional homeschooling.

By “traditional homeschool” I’m referring to planning your own curriculum, lessons, schedule and goals for the year. For the first year in more than 10 years of homeschooling, all of my children are enrolled in a cyber charter school.

Hannah decided not to go back to the performing arts charter school she attended for 2 years because the 3 hour commute each day left her no time to pursue other interests-even her art (ironic, isn’t it? She had to leave the art school so she could create art).

So, here we are after about 9 weeks of cyber school for everybody. We didn’t have as steep a learning curve technically as we did last year. While there have been technical issues, we’ve dealt with them pretty well.

Since I oversee Mark’s classes most closely, I’ll give you my impressions.

Originally, Mark was scheduled for 4 “virtual classes”, Science, Math, Language Arts and Social Studies. Virtual classes meet at a scheduled time and each of his were M-F. The idea of him sitting in a chair staring at a screen for 4 hours every day really bothered me so I was able to convince him to switch to a self-paced Social Studies class before the first day of school. After less than 2 weeks of a virtual math class, I also switched him to a self-paced format because I felt that they wasted a lot of time. His lessons for the entire semester are available and he progresses through them, basically one lesson a day. That’s the goal anyway.

He really enjoys the virtual class format, where a teacher and “white board” is visible and there’s a chat box where the students can ask questions or participate when asked. A student can also write on the white board when the teacher gives rights to do so.

 

Here’s a screenshot of one of his class recordings:

Virtual class screenshot

Screenshot of one of Mark’s virtual classes

Nearly every day in each of his virtual classes, teachers put the kids in smaller groups called “break out rooms” where they’re supposed to complete a worksheet or problem together. I understand the whole “cooperative learning” principle but honestly, I think these are a huge time waster and they’re often misused. In the beginning, the kids weren’t sure how to progress and Mark got frustrated and anxious trying to participate. As the year has progressed, Mark is proving to be a leader taking charge in break-outs. He prefers not to work with other boys because he claims that they usually don’t know what to do. When he gets the chance, he’ll request to work with a girl in class who he knows will work fairly and equally. I still think teachers use them to fill time.

I was getting frustrated with Mark’s math class. In the first 3 or so days, the teacher went over about 5-7 problems in each class period. Mark did a lot of waiting and watching. He didn’t mind but I couldn’t bear it any more so I switched him to self-paced. He’s progressing on or ahead of pace. It’s great to be able to move quickly through the concepts that he already knows or picks up easily rather than waiting for the teacher or other students.

Overall, I’m not impressed with this way of “learning”. I don’t think it’s unique to cyber schooling. I think public schools use the same methods. (Read a couple of pages of text, answer the questions..hint, hint, see that gray box? Your answer is right in there. Reword it so it isn’t plagiarism and plow through as many lessons and units as possible. Feel very good about it all because you mentioned “Inuit”, “Aztec”, “mean, median and mode”, “order of operations”, “vertebrate”, “cartilagenous” and some other stuff, design a tricky quiz just to make sure everyone caught that obscure fact and call it education).

I went to a public school and I didn’t think it was great but I think it was a little more challenging and required more independent and creative thinking. Great teachers could make a difference then. Now, everything seems to be scripted, every assignment is accompanied by a “rubric”. I understand the attempt for objectivity but there’s absolutely no room for creativity, spontaneity or innovation. Lesson, worksheet, go over worksheet, quiz, repeat.

Plagiarism is obviously a huge problem because there’s a lot of emphasis on it in the beginning and throughout the year. In my view, the way the textbooks, worksheets and quizzes are set up, it’s nearly impossible NOT to plagiarize. For example, Mark might have a question in his self-paced Social Studies class that requires a short answer. It’s obvious that it requires information directly from a specific paragraph in the book and often the information is so specific, it’s nearly impossible to reword it.

Overall, cyber school isn’t very challenging but there are a few benefits.

The biggest plus for me is the independence and outside accountability. Mark needs the most guidance but I’m expecting him to become more independent as the year goes on. For the most part, Hannah, Luke and Kate complete their assignments and classwork (if applicable) on their own. While the academics aren’t very demanding, the structure has been good for all of us.

Some of the kids have worried over the years that they would struggle with the workload or would be behind if they went to a conventional school. The experience of completing assignments on their own and keeping up with the pace has reassured them that they would do fine. Mark has to get a little more independent since he’d like to attend the public school next year, but they all feel good about meeting their teachers’ expectations and doing well.

I also appreciate how much writing they’ve had to do. They basically employ the 5 sentence paragraph method all around but it’s very effective and they’re all becoming more comfortable with writing just by being required to do it fairly regularly. Hannah’s always been a confident writer but the others have not been naturally inclined to express themselves in writing. It’s been challenging for me to require the others to write over the years. It’s an accountability issue. I’ve been happy with the amount of writing that has been required and their ability to produce quality or adequate writing.

I think one reason the 3 younger kids are so comfortable writing now, even though they haven’t done a lot of it is that we’ve read, listened to and talked about lots of books. I also had them do a fair amount of copywork and narration from the time they started school. These two simple practices are so simple to implement and are so effective in preparing kids for writing on their own. Although I haven’t been as consistent and habitual with copywork and narration as I would have liked, all the kids have done a lot of it over the years with a variety of source texts and think it’s helped.

Cyber school has offered a nice mental break for me. I won’t mind if all the kids decide to go back to a traditional type of homeschool for junior high and high school but for now, this is working for our family. Have you considered cyber school for your children? Do you even have access to it in your state? Have you ever tried it? I’d love to hear about your experience. If you have any other questions about it, feel free to leave a question in the comments.

DIY Slipcover Sneak Peak

Nothing like a room makeover to get you motivated to do something you’ve been meaning to get around to for 2 years! I posted photos of my heinous basement  a couple of years ago (scroll down to the “TV” room with the couch. See that brown couch?….here’s another photo of half of it:

DIY slipcover before photo

Kind of “Madmenly” Don’t You Think?

 

I actually think the shape of this couch is pretty cool, even the brown chenille upholstery but it’s just a little too tired and I’m not cool enough to pull it off “as is”.

I picked it up at a consignment store a few years ago for $50 after the whiff test and the sit test. Our basement has narrow openings and I thought this would work since it came in 2 pieces and it’s mid-century self is small. I don’t know why the furniture was so short/small just a generation ago but it was. Both pieces are still sturdy and obviously came right out of an estate where they were likely covered in vinyl slipcovers for the previous 40 years…works for me.

I wasn’t sure whether I would eventually reupholster or slipcover it. I decided I didn’t want to tear into it and I love the relaxed look of a custom slipcover so I decided to try my first one.

After 18 years of intending to do something in the semi-finished basement room, we finally decided to have it done. I wish we could DIY but neither of us has the time or expertise to tackle it. The contractor who remodeled the kitchen over at the duplex is fixing it up for us. (I really promise to do a post about that project).

Now was the time to start those slipcovers (remember, this couch has 2 halves).

I’m going for a relaxed but fitted cover around the body and I’ll recover the foam cushion separately. I have some experience with those as you can see here and here, so it shouldn’t take too long.

Here’s a photo of my progress…

DIY Custom Slipcover

About half way through the first piece.

 

I’m only putting piping on the top of the slipcover part and around the edges of the cushions. It adds a more finished look and isn’t too hard to insert on these straight lines.

I plan to post a tutorial. Basically, I’m pinning 2 seams together inside-out, sewing, pinning another 2 seams together, sewing and just putting the puzzle together and figuring it out as I go along. So far, this method is working well. Mark’s helping a little with ironing and sewing and is more excited than anyone for the changes.

Mark sewing piping

Sew Easy an 11 year old can do it.

I’ll post a more detailed tutorial (and maybe a video) when I put the cover for the other part of the couch together. I need to see how this one goes together first and the second one should go even smoother.

Since I’m linking up over at Elizabeth Foss’ series “Needle and thREAD”, I’ll mention that I’m rereading a book that doesn’t necessarily advocate homeschooling but it might be the single most influential book in convincing me that homeschooling was a great option.

In a “A Mind At a Time“, Dr. Mel Levine describes and demonstrates how people are wired differently so that they learn and process information differently. He’s so thoughtful and articulate and just makes a great case for accommodating strengths and strengthening weaknesses. He has clinical experience as a pediatrician, taught pediatric medicine at the University of North Carolina and has studied learning and development throughout his career.

I’m always fascinated by how the mind works and this book gives great anecdotal examples. When I first read it, I wasn’t even considering homeschooling but appreciated it as a great parenting resource to understand the differences among my children and to understand my own strengths and weaknesses. Because he writes about real patients in his practice, the book isn’t dry at all. Much of it reads like a series of stories to demonstrate his ideas and conclusions.

Go check out Elizabeth’s post and the comments to see what others are sewing and reading by clicking on the button below.

needle and thREAD

 

 

 

 

 

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Immaculee’

I’ve written before about Immaculee’ Ilibagiza, the woman who survived the Rwandan holocaust in a 4 X 4 bathroom with 7 other women for almost 4 months while nearly everyone in her immediate family was murdered. It’s an incredible story and if you haven’t read “Left to Tell“, you should. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Just kidding.

I’ve read all of her books and am looking forward to reading her latest, The Rosary The Prayer That Saved My Life. For whatever reason I haven’t picked it up yet but I’m so thrilled to be able to buy it tonight and get it signed by Immaculee’. She’s speaking at a local church and I was lucky (blessed) enough to reserve 2 tickets. I’ve seen her speak before but Mark hasn’t and cancelled a few lessons to go along with me.

If you ever get a chance to hear her speak in person, you should go. Whether your Catholic or not, her story is incredible and her faith is inspiring.

 

 

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